ETIQUETTE FAQ
I didn't write this article, but it's helpful if you're a first time client:
https://tryst.link/blog/a-first-time-clients-guide-to-escort-booking-etiquette-tryst-sex-work-blog/
Q: What are my options for a date?
A: There are different ways to experience a date with a companion. A client may prefer to dine out, dine in, meet during their lunch break, have drinks together, enjoy twice the attention with a duo date, skiing, a tropical getaway, hiking, horseback riding, museum tour, spa day, movie night, making a business trip more enjoyable or simply trying something new. I cater to the experiences you desire most that respect the privacy of both parties as well.
Q: I don’t want to get blacklisted, what gets a client blacklisted?
A: Behavior that is harmful to a companion physically, mentally, financially or is in violation of their privacy.
Ex:
*No-show to a date.
*"Ghosting" a companion after confirming a date.
*Verbally or physically assaulting a companion.
*Shorting a companion and failing to pay the difference.
*Attempting to pay with counterfeit bills.
*Refusing to pay a companion’s cancellation fee.
*Attempting to dispute electronic payment to a companion.
*Extending a date without compensating for the date extension.
*Visiting a companion's incall location at a day/time that is not a confirmed date.
*Ending a date early due to emergency or illness and requesting reimbursement for the remainder of the date.
*Photographing, recording or filming a date without the companion's consent.
*Stealing from a companion.
*Going through a companion's personal things without their consent.
*Disrespecting a companion’s etiquette requirements.
*Providing false information in screening.
*Giving a companion a dishonest review.
*Attempting to expose a companion.
*Including others on the date that the companion did not previously agree to meet.
*Stalking a companion online or in person.
*Drugging a companion.
*Asking companions to set you up with other companions (duo dates don't count).
*Constant carrot-dangling, future-faking, etc. This makes you dishonest and untrustworthy, actions should always match words.
*Refusing to allow a companion to sleep during an overnight date. If you desire a sleepless night, double the overnight rate.
*Refusing to maintain excellent hygiene, even when asked to shower, brush your teeth, etc.
*Embarrassing a companion in public with no remorse.
*Gifting fake gift cards.
Q: Why do I have to screen?
A: Screening is for safety and privacy reasons only, not to harm you in any way. No one is above screening and I take your privacy and my own seriously, all information shared in screening is handled with maximum privacy and I'd be happy to sign a legal non-disclosure agreement for dates with verified public figures. Attempts to avoid screening is a clear sign that you won't take my safety and privacy into consideration as I do for you and are shady and not worth meeting.
Q: Why do most companions require a deposit and have a cancellation policy?
A: We have reserved the time just for you, arranged our schedules accordingly and prepared ourselves for you, so we will not have our time disrespected.
*I have no rhyme or reason to disrespect you, violate your privacy or no-show. If our date required a deposit and I had to cancel, your deposit would be refunded within 24 hours of cancellation.
Q: How do I stay in a companion's good graces?
A: Birthday, Valentine's Day, Christmas and other holiday gifts, respecting her time, respecting her boundaries, being kind and considerate, matching your actions to your words, booking more time so she can do more for you, etc. When we are adored, we want to give more in return, especially when you think of us on our birthdays and holidays or wish to celebrate those with us. Of course if you remind us of your birthday, we will be sure to acknowledge it, too! Failing to acknowledge your favorite companion(s) existence outside of bookings will not get you extra perks on dates.
Q: Can we meet for coffee or drinks before our date?
A: Our date begins when we meet and ends when we part, any social time is included in the booking duration.
Q: Can I arrive late?
A: If you're running late, I offer a 10 minute grace period, but further tardiness will count towards the date. I'm hardly ever late to anything, but if in the rare case I am, I will add the time to our date.
Q: Can I arrive early and wander around the area if you can’t see me earlier?
A: No, this is shady behavior and puts my priavcy at risk. If I’m available to meet earlier, I’ll be sure to let you know in advance.
Q: Do I have to shower before a date?
A: Excellent hygiene is required. You're welcome to use the shower upon arrival if you were unable to do so beforehand. If you aren't freshly showered upon meeting and refuse to shower, our date will be cancelled with no refund. Poor hygiene is unacceptable.
Q: Can I bring a gift?
A: Absolutely! If you are bringing a gift, please make sure that everything fits inside a shopping bag or tote bag.
Q: Can I mail a gift?
A: Mailing gifts directly is not permitted unless we are in an official ongoing arrangement. Gifts are accepted on our date, from my online wish lists or via digital gift cards.
Q: Can I send flowers?
A: I absolutely love flowers and find this to be such a sweet gesture, but unfortunately I'm unable to receive flower deliveries at my incall. You're welcome to send a digital gift card for me to purchase flowers or have flowers delivered to your location for us to admire together during our date or set them aside for me to take home after our date.
Q: What do I do with the donation?
A: Please make sure you have the correct donation ready before the date and do not attempt to hand it to me or make me ask for it, it ruins the mood. The donation must be taken care of immediately upon arrival.
* If I’m visiting you, please place my donation in an unsealed envelope in the closest bathroom before I arrive.
*If we are meeting in public, please keep my donation somewhere safe and discreet such as a book or greeting card in a gift bag or tote bag at the table.
*If you're visiting me, please place my donation in an unsealed envelope in clear view upon arrival and excuse yourself to use the bathroom.
*If your donation is electronic, there is a tax for dates paid electronically in full and payment is received upon arrival.
*See payment options in "Consideration".
Q: Can I take care of the donation before the date?
A: I only accept this from my most established clients. There is a tax for dates paid electronically in full.
Q: Can I use my phone during the date?
A: Emergencies happen, but it is rude to use your phone during a date and exclude the other person. It would be best to keep your phone on "Do Not Disturb" or turned off and if you're visiting me, turn off your location upon arrival as I do when visiting you for added privacy. If you need to check the time or make a call for a business or personal emergency, I understand, but please keep it short. Please do not bring your phone into the bathroom with you, that's shady behavior.
Q: Can I record, photograph or film our date?
A: You do not have my consent to photograph, film or record me. Violating my privacy by photographing, filming and/or recording me during our date without my consent is a criminal offense and you will be reported to the police and blacklisted. I have devices that will detect any recording devices you may attempt to use on our date, so don’t even think about it. I will never photograph or film you, your home or anything that could easily be identified. I'd never violate your privacy.
Q: What about PDA?
A: PDA is not okay because we both have reputations to uphold and should appear as old friends, colleagues or in the early stage of dating when out in public. Even in civvy life PDA is bad manners, keep it behind closed doors.
Q: I’m paying for a gift/deposit virtually and am worried about purchases appearing on my bank statement, what can I do?
A: Use Privacy.com/the Privacy app and customize your settings to make them make sense to you. If you cannot purchase an Amazon gift card virtually, you can purchase them in your local grocery store or pharmacy with cash and provide the receipt as well as the gift card numbers so that I may verify them and enter them manually. I will check to make sure they are valid. WishTender is another private payment option for gifts, deposits and cancellation fees.
Q: What will you wear?
A: For any public appearances on a date, I dress more conservative chic or business casual to protect both of our public images. Whether the occasion is casual or more formal, I’ll always keep it classy.
Q: Can I make a wardrobe request?
A: I accept outfit requests for dates 2 hours or longer. If you request an outfit for an outcall date that I cannot wear in public, I'll bring it with me to change in private. If you are requesting an outfit I don't already own, you're welcome to send a gift from my wish list or digital gift card for me to purchase the outfit of your choice for me to wear for you if it will arrive in time for our date. If you'd like to bring it with you, I can share sizing after our date is confirmed.
Q: Will you meet me anywhere for a date?
A: Discretion is of utmost importance to me and I understand its important to you as well and the location you suggest works for both of us. But, if you happen to suggest a location that is too high risk for me, I can offer other location options that work for both of us or we can keep our date entirely discreet.
Q: Do regulars get special perks?
A: If I was seeing a client consistently (2-4x per month minimum) who was generous and never violated boundaries, I’d offer extra special perks, especially if they booked extended dates and included tips as well. The length and depth of a client/companion relationship does not affect my etiquette requirements, rates for dates under 72 hours or cancellation policy. One of the many perks of booking a companion is confidentiality and boundaries, which enables us to have our needs fulfilled without the headache of traditional dating or the risk of an office romance.
Q: Will you stay with me in my home for a FMTY or overnight date?
A: I'm not comfortable staying at your private residence unless you are an established client or complete both verification options in the booking form. Otherwise I can stay in a 4-6 star hotel.
Q: Can I reimburse you for travel expenses when you arrive for a FMTY?
A: I do not pay out-of-pocket for travel expenses only to be promised reimbursement upon arrival, travel expenses are added to the booking deposit. If you’re booking my FMTY Special, the booking deposit will cover what is promised.
Q: Can I use you as a reference?
A: Please notify a companion before using them as a reference, it’s common courtesy. I’m open to being a reference for you twice before our next date and up to 1 year after our last date. After 2 references, there is a $100 fee for each additional reference request paid as a donation or a gift from one of my wish lists. I can no longer be a reference for you over 1 year after our last date. Why do I have this policy? I want to make sure you're still safe to see before recommending you, which is why I can't be a reference over a year after our last date.
Q: Can we chat on the phone or FaceTime?
A: Phone calls are for an official ongoing arrangement and I do not FaceTime, you will see my face in all its glory when we meet in person.
Q: Can we chit-chat via text or e-mail?
A: Ongoing communication is possible for clients if we're in an official arrangement or they've purchased a texting package, otherwise our communication is reserved for booking dates or sending gifts.
Q: Can I drink or party during our date?
A: You’re welcome to consume substances in my presence safely, but if you abuse any substances and make me feel unsafe, our date will end immediately. I’m legal 420-friendly but won’t "partoke" unless you do.
Q: What if I’m a smoker?
A: If you smoke cigarettes, cigars or vape, kindly do so outdoors and be sure to freshen-up after use.
Q: Can we cuddle all night?
A: While I love to cuddle, I need personal space to sleep during an overnight and would much prefer sharing a suite with a king sized bed for more space, separate beds or separate bedrooms. Uninterrupted sleep is required for all overnight dates in order for me to be at my best for you. If you desire a sleepless overnight or plan on disturbing my sleep on purpose, double the overnight rate.
Q: Will you join me on a business trip?
A: Absolutely! If I'm joining you on a business trip and you're only able to spend time together before or after work, I have no problem being treated to meals, shopping or a gym, museum or spa visit while you're away. I'll await your return so we can unwind together.
Q: What if we run into each other out in public?
A: If we see each other out in our everyday lives, let's respect each other's privacy. Do not approach me, heckle me, tell the people you're with about me, approach whoever is with me, etc. Unless we have an official ongoing arrangement and mutually agreed to become acquainted with friend(s) and colleague(s), our relationship is meant to stay between us. I respect your privacy and would never do anything to sabotage that.
Q: What are my options for an arrangement?
A: We can discuss that on our date if you’re interested, I’m not comfortable discussing an arrangement until we’ve had a date first. An arrangement is my ultimate desire, I was a Sugar Baby before I became an Independent Companion and long-term arrangements will always be my preference.
Q: Can I share a review of our date?
A: A follow-up e-mail or text after our date is common courtesy, but please do not discuss other companions with me and do not discuss me with other companions. If you attempt to share intimate details from our date in a public review like a P411 “OK” request, I'll have to deny it. The details of what I consent to and create with someone should never be shared publicly.
I didn't write this article, but it's helpful if you're a first time client:
https://tryst.link/blog/a-first-time-clients-guide-to-escort-booking-etiquette-tryst-sex-work-blog/
Q: What are my options for a date?
A: There are different ways to experience a date with a companion. A client may prefer to dine out, dine in, meet during their lunch break, have drinks together, enjoy twice the attention with a duo date, skiing, a tropical getaway, hiking, horseback riding, museum tour, spa day, movie night, making a business trip more enjoyable or simply trying something new. I cater to the experiences you desire most that respect the privacy of both parties as well.
Q: I don’t want to get blacklisted, what gets a client blacklisted?
A: Behavior that is harmful to a companion physically, mentally, financially or is in violation of their privacy.
Ex:
*No-show to a date.
*"Ghosting" a companion after confirming a date.
*Verbally or physically assaulting a companion.
*Shorting a companion and failing to pay the difference.
*Attempting to pay with counterfeit bills.
*Refusing to pay a companion’s cancellation fee.
*Attempting to dispute electronic payment to a companion.
*Extending a date without compensating for the date extension.
*Visiting a companion's incall location at a day/time that is not a confirmed date.
*Ending a date early due to emergency or illness and requesting reimbursement for the remainder of the date.
*Photographing, recording or filming a date without the companion's consent.
*Stealing from a companion.
*Going through a companion's personal things without their consent.
*Disrespecting a companion’s etiquette requirements.
*Providing false information in screening.
*Giving a companion a dishonest review.
*Attempting to expose a companion.
*Including others on the date that the companion did not previously agree to meet.
*Stalking a companion online or in person.
*Drugging a companion.
*Asking companions to set you up with other companions (duo dates don't count).
*Constant carrot-dangling, future-faking, etc. This makes you dishonest and untrustworthy, actions should always match words.
*Refusing to allow a companion to sleep during an overnight date. If you desire a sleepless night, double the overnight rate.
*Refusing to maintain excellent hygiene, even when asked to shower, brush your teeth, etc.
*Embarrassing a companion in public with no remorse.
*Gifting fake gift cards.
Q: Why do I have to screen?
A: Screening is for safety and privacy reasons only, not to harm you in any way. No one is above screening and I take your privacy and my own seriously, all information shared in screening is handled with maximum privacy and I'd be happy to sign a legal non-disclosure agreement for dates with verified public figures. Attempts to avoid screening is a clear sign that you won't take my safety and privacy into consideration as I do for you and are shady and not worth meeting.
Q: Why do most companions require a deposit and have a cancellation policy?
A: We have reserved the time just for you, arranged our schedules accordingly and prepared ourselves for you, so we will not have our time disrespected.
*I have no rhyme or reason to disrespect you, violate your privacy or no-show. If our date required a deposit and I had to cancel, your deposit would be refunded within 24 hours of cancellation.
Q: How do I stay in a companion's good graces?
A: Birthday, Valentine's Day, Christmas and other holiday gifts, respecting her time, respecting her boundaries, being kind and considerate, matching your actions to your words, booking more time so she can do more for you, etc. When we are adored, we want to give more in return, especially when you think of us on our birthdays and holidays or wish to celebrate those with us. Of course if you remind us of your birthday, we will be sure to acknowledge it, too! Failing to acknowledge your favorite companion(s) existence outside of bookings will not get you extra perks on dates.
Q: Can we meet for coffee or drinks before our date?
A: Our date begins when we meet and ends when we part, any social time is included in the booking duration.
Q: Can I arrive late?
A: If you're running late, I offer a 10 minute grace period, but further tardiness will count towards the date. I'm hardly ever late to anything, but if in the rare case I am, I will add the time to our date.
Q: Can I arrive early and wander around the area if you can’t see me earlier?
A: No, this is shady behavior and puts my priavcy at risk. If I’m available to meet earlier, I’ll be sure to let you know in advance.
Q: Do I have to shower before a date?
A: Excellent hygiene is required. You're welcome to use the shower upon arrival if you were unable to do so beforehand. If you aren't freshly showered upon meeting and refuse to shower, our date will be cancelled with no refund. Poor hygiene is unacceptable.
Q: Can I bring a gift?
A: Absolutely! If you are bringing a gift, please make sure that everything fits inside a shopping bag or tote bag.
Q: Can I mail a gift?
A: Mailing gifts directly is not permitted unless we are in an official ongoing arrangement. Gifts are accepted on our date, from my online wish lists or via digital gift cards.
Q: Can I send flowers?
A: I absolutely love flowers and find this to be such a sweet gesture, but unfortunately I'm unable to receive flower deliveries at my incall. You're welcome to send a digital gift card for me to purchase flowers or have flowers delivered to your location for us to admire together during our date or set them aside for me to take home after our date.
Q: What do I do with the donation?
A: Please make sure you have the correct donation ready before the date and do not attempt to hand it to me or make me ask for it, it ruins the mood. The donation must be taken care of immediately upon arrival.
* If I’m visiting you, please place my donation in an unsealed envelope in the closest bathroom before I arrive.
*If we are meeting in public, please keep my donation somewhere safe and discreet such as a book or greeting card in a gift bag or tote bag at the table.
*If you're visiting me, please place my donation in an unsealed envelope in clear view upon arrival and excuse yourself to use the bathroom.
*If your donation is electronic, there is a tax for dates paid electronically in full and payment is received upon arrival.
*See payment options in "Consideration".
Q: Can I take care of the donation before the date?
A: I only accept this from my most established clients. There is a tax for dates paid electronically in full.
Q: Can I use my phone during the date?
A: Emergencies happen, but it is rude to use your phone during a date and exclude the other person. It would be best to keep your phone on "Do Not Disturb" or turned off and if you're visiting me, turn off your location upon arrival as I do when visiting you for added privacy. If you need to check the time or make a call for a business or personal emergency, I understand, but please keep it short. Please do not bring your phone into the bathroom with you, that's shady behavior.
Q: Can I record, photograph or film our date?
A: You do not have my consent to photograph, film or record me. Violating my privacy by photographing, filming and/or recording me during our date without my consent is a criminal offense and you will be reported to the police and blacklisted. I have devices that will detect any recording devices you may attempt to use on our date, so don’t even think about it. I will never photograph or film you, your home or anything that could easily be identified. I'd never violate your privacy.
Q: What about PDA?
A: PDA is not okay because we both have reputations to uphold and should appear as old friends, colleagues or in the early stage of dating when out in public. Even in civvy life PDA is bad manners, keep it behind closed doors.
Q: I’m paying for a gift/deposit virtually and am worried about purchases appearing on my bank statement, what can I do?
A: Use Privacy.com/the Privacy app and customize your settings to make them make sense to you. If you cannot purchase an Amazon gift card virtually, you can purchase them in your local grocery store or pharmacy with cash and provide the receipt as well as the gift card numbers so that I may verify them and enter them manually. I will check to make sure they are valid. WishTender is another private payment option for gifts, deposits and cancellation fees.
Q: What will you wear?
A: For any public appearances on a date, I dress more conservative chic or business casual to protect both of our public images. Whether the occasion is casual or more formal, I’ll always keep it classy.
Q: Can I make a wardrobe request?
A: I accept outfit requests for dates 2 hours or longer. If you request an outfit for an outcall date that I cannot wear in public, I'll bring it with me to change in private. If you are requesting an outfit I don't already own, you're welcome to send a gift from my wish list or digital gift card for me to purchase the outfit of your choice for me to wear for you if it will arrive in time for our date. If you'd like to bring it with you, I can share sizing after our date is confirmed.
Q: Will you meet me anywhere for a date?
A: Discretion is of utmost importance to me and I understand its important to you as well and the location you suggest works for both of us. But, if you happen to suggest a location that is too high risk for me, I can offer other location options that work for both of us or we can keep our date entirely discreet.
Q: Do regulars get special perks?
A: If I was seeing a client consistently (2-4x per month minimum) who was generous and never violated boundaries, I’d offer extra special perks, especially if they booked extended dates and included tips as well. The length and depth of a client/companion relationship does not affect my etiquette requirements, rates for dates under 72 hours or cancellation policy. One of the many perks of booking a companion is confidentiality and boundaries, which enables us to have our needs fulfilled without the headache of traditional dating or the risk of an office romance.
Q: Will you stay with me in my home for a FMTY or overnight date?
A: I'm not comfortable staying at your private residence unless you are an established client or complete both verification options in the booking form. Otherwise I can stay in a 4-6 star hotel.
Q: Can I reimburse you for travel expenses when you arrive for a FMTY?
A: I do not pay out-of-pocket for travel expenses only to be promised reimbursement upon arrival, travel expenses are added to the booking deposit. If you’re booking my FMTY Special, the booking deposit will cover what is promised.
Q: Can I use you as a reference?
A: Please notify a companion before using them as a reference, it’s common courtesy. I’m open to being a reference for you twice before our next date and up to 1 year after our last date. After 2 references, there is a $100 fee for each additional reference request paid as a donation or a gift from one of my wish lists. I can no longer be a reference for you over 1 year after our last date. Why do I have this policy? I want to make sure you're still safe to see before recommending you, which is why I can't be a reference over a year after our last date.
Q: Can we chat on the phone or FaceTime?
A: Phone calls are for an official ongoing arrangement and I do not FaceTime, you will see my face in all its glory when we meet in person.
Q: Can we chit-chat via text or e-mail?
A: Ongoing communication is possible for clients if we're in an official arrangement or they've purchased a texting package, otherwise our communication is reserved for booking dates or sending gifts.
Q: Can I drink or party during our date?
A: You’re welcome to consume substances in my presence safely, but if you abuse any substances and make me feel unsafe, our date will end immediately. I’m legal 420-friendly but won’t "partoke" unless you do.
Q: What if I’m a smoker?
A: If you smoke cigarettes, cigars or vape, kindly do so outdoors and be sure to freshen-up after use.
Q: Can we cuddle all night?
A: While I love to cuddle, I need personal space to sleep during an overnight and would much prefer sharing a suite with a king sized bed for more space, separate beds or separate bedrooms. Uninterrupted sleep is required for all overnight dates in order for me to be at my best for you. If you desire a sleepless overnight or plan on disturbing my sleep on purpose, double the overnight rate.
Q: Will you join me on a business trip?
A: Absolutely! If I'm joining you on a business trip and you're only able to spend time together before or after work, I have no problem being treated to meals, shopping or a gym, museum or spa visit while you're away. I'll await your return so we can unwind together.
Q: What if we run into each other out in public?
A: If we see each other out in our everyday lives, let's respect each other's privacy. Do not approach me, heckle me, tell the people you're with about me, approach whoever is with me, etc. Unless we have an official ongoing arrangement and mutually agreed to become acquainted with friend(s) and colleague(s), our relationship is meant to stay between us. I respect your privacy and would never do anything to sabotage that.
Q: What are my options for an arrangement?
A: We can discuss that on our date if you’re interested, I’m not comfortable discussing an arrangement until we’ve had a date first. An arrangement is my ultimate desire, I was a Sugar Baby before I became an Independent Companion and long-term arrangements will always be my preference.
Q: Can I share a review of our date?
A: A follow-up e-mail or text after our date is common courtesy, but please do not discuss other companions with me and do not discuss me with other companions. If you attempt to share intimate details from our date in a public review like a P411 “OK” request, I'll have to deny it. The details of what I consent to and create with someone should never be shared publicly.